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Chien qui aboie ne mord pas (et la caravane passe).
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Attachement, amour, amitié selon Marcel Proust.

"Aimer est un mauvais sort, comme ceux qu'il y a dans les contes, contre quoi on ne peut rien jusqu'à ce que l'enchantement ait cessé." (Marcel Proust, 1871-1922).

Chien qui aboie ne mord pas (et la caravane passe).
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Autres citations de Marcel Proust sur ce thème:

"On n'aime plus personne dès qu'on aime." / "When one is in love one has no love left for anyone."

Cela peut signifie qu'on n'aime plus personne dès qu'on aime puisque la personne aimée est une personne qui n'existe pas, car elle est "fabriquée" par nous-mêmes. On retrouve la même pensée dans "L'amour est immense: la personne aimée y tient peu de place puisque la plupart des éléments de la personne aimée sont tirés de nous-mêmes." (Marcel Proust) [on pense à cette citation de Jacques Lacan: "L'amour c'est donner ce que l'on n'a pas à quelqu'un qui n'en veut pas." (Jacques Lacan)].


"On n’aime que ce qu'on ne possède pas tout entier." / "We love only what we do not wholly possess." / "Desire makes everything blossom; possession makes everything wither and fade."

"L'absence n'est-elle pas, pour qui aime, la plus certaine, la plus efficace, la plus vivace, la plus indestructible, la plus fidèle des présences?"

"Dans l'attente on souffre tant de l'absence de ce qu'on désire, qu'on ne peut supporter une autre présence." / "When we are kept waiting, we suffer so keenly from the absence of the person for whom we are longing that we cannot endure the presence of anyone else."

"Les liens qui unissent une autre personne à nous-mêmes n'existent que dans notre esprit." / "The bonds that unite another person to our self exist only in our mind."

"A man may have spent his life among the great ones of the earth, who to him have been merely boring relatives or tedious acquaintances because a familiarity engendered in the cradle had stripped them of all glamour in his eyes."

"Ma seule consolation quand je suis vraiment triste, est d'aimer et d'être aimé." / "My only consolation when I am really sad is to love and to be loved."

"People who are not in love fail to understand how an intelligent man can suffer because of a very ordinary woman. This is like being surprised that anyone should be stricken with cholera because of a creature so insignificant as the common bacillus."

"I could no longer desire physically without feeling a need for her, without suffering from her absence."

"Le bonheur est dans l'amour un état anormal." / "In love, happiness is an abnormal state."

"How can we have the courage to wish to live, how can we make a movement to preserve ourselves from death, in a world where love is provoked by a lie and consists solely in the need of having our sufferings appeased by whatever being has made us suffer?"

"It's odd how a person always arouses admiration for his moral qualities among the relatives of another with whom he has sexual relations. Physical love, so unjustifiably decried, makes everyone show, down to the least detail, all he has of goodness and self-sacrifice, so that he shines even in the eyes of those nearest to him."

"Bodily passion, which has been so unjustly decried, compels its victims to display every vestige that is in them of unselfishness and generosity, and so effectively that they shine resplendent in the eyes of all beholders."

"Une parole de celle que nous aimons ne se conserve pas longtemps dans sa pureté; elle se gâte, se pourrit."

"Une femme qu'on aime suffit rarement à tous nos besoins et on la trompe avec une femme qu'on n'aime pas." / "A woman one loves rarely suffices for all our needs, so we deceive her with another whom we do not love."

"La possession de ce qu'on aime est une joie plus grande encore que l'amour." / "Possessing what one loves is an even greater joy than love itself."

"Fall in love with a dog's bum, And thou'll think it pretty as a plum."

"A woman whom we need and who makes us suffer elicits from us a whole gamut of feelings far more profound and vital than a man of genius who interests us."

"L'amour, même en ses plus humbles commencements, est un exemple frappant du peu qu'est la réalité pour nous."/ "Love is a striking example of how little reality means to us."

"For often I have wished to see a person again without realising that it was simply because that personal recalled to me a hedge of hawthorns in blossom, and I have been led to believe, and to make someone else believe, in a renewal of affection, by what was no more than an inclination to travel."

"There can be no peace of mind in love, since the advantage one has secured is never anything but a fresh starting-point for future desires."

"It is a mistake to speak of a bad choice in love, since, as soon as a choice exists, it can only be bad."

"Love is not vain because it is frustrated, but because it is fulfilled. The people we love turn to ashes when we posess them."

"There is not a woman in the world the possession of whom is as precious as that of the truths which she reveals to us by causing us to suffer."

"Love is a reciprocal torture."

"With women who do not love us, as with the "dear departed," the knowledge that there is no hope left does not prevent us from continuing to wait. We live on our guard, on watch; women whose son has gone asea on a dangerous exploration imagine at any minute, although it has long been certain that he has perished, that he will enter, miraculously saved, and healthy."

"According to a charming law of nature which is evident even in the most sophisticated societies, we live in complete ignorance of whatever we love."

"Adultery breathes new life into marriages which have been left for dead."

"For, just as in the beginning it is formed by desire, so afterwards love is kept in existence only by painful anxiety."

"Love is an incurable malady like those pathetic states in which rheumatism affords the sufferer a brief respite only to be replaced by epileptiform headaches."

"No doubt very few people understand the purely subjective nature of the phenomenon that we call love, or how it creates, so to speak, a supplementary person, distinct from the person whom the world knows by the same name, a person most of whose constituent elements are derived from ourselves."

"We fall in love for a smile, a look, a shoulder. That is enough; then, in the long hours of hope or sorrow, we fabricate a person, we compose a character."

"What a profound significance small things assume when the woman we love conceals them from us."

"For we are not as faithful to the being we have most loved as we are to ourselves and sooner or later we forget her – since that is one of our characteristics – so as to start loving another."

"Every woman feels that the greater her power over a man, the more impossible it is to leave him except by sudden flight: a fugitive precisely because a queen."

"En amour, il est plus facile de renoncer à un sentiment que de perdre une habitude."

"Laissons les jolies femmes aux hommes sans imagination." / "Leave the pretty women for the men without imagination." / "Let us leave pretty women to men devoid of imagination."

"Le témoignage des sens est, lui aussi, une opération de l'esprit où la conviction crée l'évidence."

"In a separation it is the one who is not really in love who says the more tender things."

"Il est vraiment rare qu'on se quitte bien, car si on était bien, on ne se quitterait pas."

"Love, ever unsatisfied, lives always in the moment that is about to come."

"Those whose suffering is due to love are, as we say of certain invalids, their own physicians."

"I have built, deep in my heart, a chapel filled with you."

"La jalousie n'est souvent qu'un inquiet besoin de tyrannie appliquée aux choses de l'amour."

"He sat there silent, watching their love expire."


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